1) ACCEPT PAIN AS A NATURAL RESPONSE THAT SOMETHING NEEDS ATTENTION!
Yes, I get scared. I feel pain. I am just like you. I sometimes feel like grabbing a Tylenol pill when I feel pain or opening the frig when I feel lost or sad. But those distractions simply deafen the pain for only a few minutes. Then the pain comes right back, because we haven't taken out the root. Give yourself the attention you deserve when you feel out-of-whack. Tapping alone can move mountains. When we clean up the energy within, we can move forward with positive awareness, appreciation for the entirety of Creation as we know it, and the knowledge to make choices that will benefit us.
2) When you feel THAT feeling - JUST TAP!
It's like taking a shower. It should happen often, the dirtier you are. Ultimately, when I practice MY PRACTICE - I am better able to help others in the long run, which is my Life Mission! If you don't serve yourself first, you can't help others. Maybe you're a parent or caregiver to your parent. You know what it's like going throughout your day feeling like crap. It sucks! It's not fun and no one wants to be around that kind of energy. You end up pushing all of the joy away from you without even realizing it. When you tap - you literally create flow, ease, and, before you know it, it's like you're lying on a sandy tropical beach with a cocktail in one hand. You can even use that visual if it helps the relaxation response!
3) DON'T GIVE UP.
When I began using meridian tapping, about 3 years ago on my own, I felt a real shift in my thinking, my presence, and my overall state of wellness. As I dug deeper to find answers to my most painful tribulations in life, I found what I was looking for every time. The source was always to change my energy (to get it flowing naturally the way it was meant to). I tapped when I felt it wasn't going to work, and I felt shifts. I tapped when I knew that I was going to feel better, and I did. I tapped when everything seemed to fall apart around me, and the outcome...not surprising! I FELT BETTER! I gave myself the power to move, create balance, and be apart of life again.
4) EXPRESS YOURSELF!
It's not only a Madonna song, it's real self-care advice. As you may have read already on the About Matthew page, I grew up in and out of depressive episodes. There were very many times in my past when suicide came to my mind. I sought out traditional psychological treatment, but it failed. I was put on medication for depression. That failed, and in fact made matters worse. I spoke to few people about it, because I felt ashamed. As a child, I was sometimes taught not to show (express) negative emotions. Instead, I was told, "Go to your room and cry! I don't want to see that! I'll really give you something to cry about!" Maybe you heard that too? That mini trauma kept me silently suffering through much of my adulthood. It wasn't until recently when I found tapping that I really began to share my feelings freely. Writing down your feelings helps, but for me - talking about them and "venting" in private (while tapping through the points) really works wonders.
5) BE BRAVE.
Yes, I know, "Easier said than done!" But what if they are both easy. What if saying it and doing it is easy? Close your eyes and imagine what it would feel like if you lived without fear, without nervousness. Imagine you're with someone who you really feel like being totally honest and forthcoming with, but you haven't because you're worried about the consequences. In your vivid imagination, happily walk up to that person and have the conversation - while you're smiling from ear to ear. Tell him/her EVERYTHING you wanted to. Then at the end of the conversation, give a nice handshake or hug and walk away feeling like a billion dollars! When I do that exercise, I see myself smiling and talking a LOT! I see myself telling it like it is - in a very nice way. If tried in real life, this helps others know where you stand. It will also help you sleep like a rock every night!